Dr. Victoria Balenger

Issues and Challenges for Sexual Minorities in the Workplace

Approximately ten percent of the population identifies as “GLBT”: gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered (*). Over the past decade, sexual minorities have found increased sensitivity and respect as sexual orientation has become recognized as a legitimate “diversity issue”. In the seventies, the major psychiatric and psychological organizations began to acknowledge homosexuality as a normal variation…

Better Self-Care: Because There is “Only One You”

Most of us know in theory what we should be doing to take care of ourselves: eating regular meals, exercising, getting enough sleep –– but knowing and doing can be two different things. Even when we are obviously  suffering negative effects of self-neglect, it is easy to indefinitely delay simple changes that could substantially improve…

Stress Management Tips and Strategies

If you are feeling overloaded with too much to do, acknowledge that you cannot do it all at once! To help you better prioritize, make a list of your tasks and give each the following designation: Do, Delay, Delegate or Dump. Remember to breathe. Try standing up and stretching your arms upward as you breathe…

Errant Coping Styles, or How We Might Trip Ourselves Up

Personal and job-related stress can range from “daily hassles” (e.g., traffic jams) to more serious problems such as an illness or death in the family. Some of the stressors that might fall in between: depression, anxiety, or phobias; couples’ or family issues; unhealthy behaviors including substance abuse; decreased work productivity; or conflict with a colleague…

The ABC’s of Mental Health

Most people need some type of counseling or mental health support at some time in their life. Common emotional/psychological problems range from stress-related health symptoms, to relationship issues, grief & loss, anxiety, and depression. Many people have problems with substance abuse or other compulsive behaviors (e.g., with food, spending, “workaholism”) that can be defeated only…

Vicarious Traumatization

“Vicarious Traumatization” refers to the set of emotional/psychological reactions often experienced by someone who witnesses (directly or indirectly) any traumatic event or series of events. Examples might include a car accident, violent crime, suicide or medical emergency. Factors that can affect your likelihood of being vicariously traumatized include: your proximity to the situation; your relationship…

Grieving Unanticipated Losses

The sudden death of a family member, friend, neighbor or co-worker can trigger physical, mental and emotional reactions beyond normal grief. Even after an anticipated death, survivors might feel “in shock” and be quite unprepared for the intensity of their grief. When a death is sudden and especially if it is violent, your sense of…

How to Say “No”

It should be easy, but it’s not. For many, the inability to say that one little word creates no end of stress, frustration, and misunderstanding. What makes it so difficult to say no? Some of the predominant factors seem to be: guilt over letting someone else down; fear of conflict or disagreement; denial of our…